Sunday, 30 August 2020

Your Hair is Your Crown

Hello, Lovelies     

How are you doing? 
    Today, I  will be talking about our crowns. Yes, our crowns. As naturalistas, it's kind of hard for us to appreciate our hair and to see the beautyuniqueness and the gift given to us by God. We ignore and shy away from our kinky curls, and sometimes wish it was something else.

Well, I'm here to let you know that there is beauty in our texture, colour, and style. It's what you have been adorned with, it is your crown- a symbol of your heritage- so don't shy away from it. 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Beauty comes in different forms and shapes. Beauty comes in different 'crowns' too... 

Be proud of your heritage and who you are and wear your crown with pride.  Cheers to all naturalistas and powerful sisters of colour out there. 

May we know them, may we raise them, may we be them.

Love. Peace. Light.



Above piece courtesy of Fulfill Jewelry!


Wednesday, 5 August 2020

Pre-Poo: What I Do

How 're you doing?
Have you noticed how the weeks are racing away or, am I the only one feeling this way?
Anyway, I hope you're doing well and still keeping safe? We are not yet out of the woods,
so please be careful and good.

Today, I will be sharing with you how I pre-poo. Some of you may be wondering what this is. 

As the name implies, pre-poo is the activity or process your hair undergoes before shampooing. It simply
involves the treatment of the hair with oils or conditioners before washing.

So why do I pre-poo?
The main reason is to protect my hair from the cleansing effects of shampoos that dry out the
hair strands and scalp on wash days.  It protects the hair and helps it retain its natural oils,
which reduces the chances of breakage.

I use oils simply as a personal preference. My choice of oil is the extra virgin olive oil (other
oils you can use are coconut, avocado, jojoba, almond, and argan) because it's simple to get.
Of course, Olive oil has its benefits as well: conditioning and strengthening of hair, anti-bacterial, improves elasticity, penetrates
easily, and promotes hair growth.

*There will be a post on the benefits of oils including the ones mentioned above*

My routine:
The night before my wash day, I loosen my hair then section it into manageable parts. Note,
this is done on dry hair (this is my preference. You can dampen your hair with water before
applying the oils as well).

I apply my olive oil onto each section from the scalp to the tip, massage it in gently, then
gradually start detangling. After detangling, I loosely twist the section back and just repeat
through the other sections. Once I'm done, I wear my shower cap and enjoy the rest of my
night till the next day. (Change your shower cap to satin bonnet before you go to bed).

If you opt to not leave it on overnight then you could always wait only 30mins before washing
it out. Just wear your plastic cap.

I choose not to use any conditioner for my pre-poo simply because I deep condition every
wash day and I achieve great results with just olive oil. So using conditioner as well just
means wasting my time and product (my wash day is usually a different whole day affair..lol)

My result:
Softer and shinier hair is always my outcome. It is extremely moisturized as well. 

This process has proven to be staple and I have already permanently added it to my hair rituals and will continue to do so for a long time!

I hope this was useful? Questions, suggestions, tips....let's know what works for you. Don't shy away from sharing your experiences as well. 

Till our next post.  Love and Light!











Friday, 24 July 2020

Everyday Style Collection.Vol. 1




Hello dearies!

We are back with some new designs for our Everyday Style lookbook. We are here to serve you and design beautiful pieces that reflect your personality and taste.

You can wear them matched with your traditional or western outfits. They compliment any outfit and occasion!

Enjoy viewing our collection and drop a comment. Don't hesitate to contact us if you would like to indulge in any of these pieces, or if you have another style in mind.

Thanks, and be safe!








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Saturday, 11 July 2020

Natural Hair Essentials For Every Beginner

   Hello everyone!
I hope you all are doing great and well?

We are back again with another natural hair post! This topic has been long promised and today we will be informing all our natural hair beginners and naturals- to- be about all you need to embark on this journey. You all must be expecting me to just jump straight into the tools that you will need. However, there is something more important that should be acknowledged first: your mentality.

Going natural is no simple task. I am not saying this to scare you but you must be aware that by embarking on this journey, you are going to be handling more sensitive, coarser, and textured hair. This is very far from the relaxed/ permed hair, I assume some of you are coming from. Beginners must be ready to go natural and understand it is care, attention, and consistency that facilitates progress. This is not a phase, but a lifestyle. Now that the importance of mental preparation has been established, we can now move on to the basic accessories every beginner should have in their collection:

1. The wide-tooth comb: This is the main detangling tool you should be using after your hands. The large gaps between the bristles aid the detangling process and are less damaging than closed- bristled combs.
Large Wide Tooth Combs – abdage.com
Annie Jumbo Rake Comb - Black

2. Spray bottle: Styling your hair dry is never an option. Not only is natural hair less manageable while dry, but you are also likely to experience more shedding/ breakage when handling it dry. This is where spray bottles come in. 
Spray bottle for your vinegar and water cleaning solution
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3. Hair scissors: If you are transitioning or thinking of transitioning, this is another staple you need. You should be trimming away your permed ends as your natural hair grows out so, it is important to have this. Note! Do not just get any pair of scissors; specifically search for hair scissors, as they are often sharper and tailored towards cutting hair. 
Niigata 1000 | Scissor Mall
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4. Hairbands: Natural hair and rubber bands should never go in the same sentence. What you use to bond your hair might seem unimportant, but on the contrary, it contributes to your hair's moisture retention and strength. Having satin-lined hair bands helps retain moisture. Alternatively, you could get simple non- rubber bands that won't pull or snag on your hair. 
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Thick Hair Ties - Black, 20 Pack | Icing US
Bendable Satin Lined Headbands | Etsy


5. Satin- lined sleeping bonnet- You should keep your hair protected even in your sleep. A satin bonnet helps you do exactly that. Wearing this ensures your hair is not stripped of its moisture from surrounding surfaces on your bed. It also helps reduce frizz and maintain your styling. If you are a rough sleeper or tumble a lot at night, hence your bonnet slipping off, I suggest getting a satin pillowcase. This way, even if you lose your bonnet at night you're still protected. 
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Satin Pillowcase with Zipper Travel Size Set of 2 Silky Sateen ...
6. Shower cap- Gone are the days of your hair not getting affected by moisture or humidity. Showering or exposure to moisture on natural hair will cause frizz. Buy yourself a good shower cap- it could be plastic, disposable, or even satin-lined if you are feeling a bit fancy. An affordable alternative would also be using shopping plastic bags.
Waterproof Shower Cap Elastic Head Cover Hat Net Colorful Plastic ...
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Extra Large Shower Cap Satin Lined | Jorie Hair

Next, we are going to talk about the key products that you will need:

1. A good shampoo and conditioner- I suggest purchasing one for brittle or damaged hair because I feel like they provide more intense treatment for your hair than general shampoos and conditioners. If you can find one without chemicals such as parabens, sulfates, and phosphates, then that is a plus. Transitioning is a very delicate process and your hair needs as much help as possible because you are trying to manage two hair textures. Brands I would recommend are:
- Shea moisture
- Cantu
- Pantene
-As I am
- Creme of nature...

2. Deep and leave-in conditioner: These products help replace moisture and prevent your hair from being dry and brittle, making it prone to damage. You should deep condition one to two times a month. Leave in conditioner should be applied every couple of days or according to your hair's needs. The brands mentioned above, also make deep conditioners and/ or leave-in conditioners.

3. Hair oils: This particular product is the most important because it could make or break your efforts. Oils help to seal moisture ( that you could get from conditioners, creams, moisturizers, etc.) into your hair strands. They also contribute to your hair's luster and shine. Depending on how well your hair does with absorbing products, you might want to use heavy oils (H) or light oils (L). Some examples include:
- Coconut oil (L)
- Castor oil (H)
- Argan oil (medium) 
- Olive oil(L)

       That brings today's post to an end. I hope you all enjoyed this and found it super helpful. If you have any other questions or you would like to see more posts on a specific topic, please comment your thoughts below. Hope you all have a wonderful day.

~Ama-rachi

Thursday, 25 June 2020

R.A.P..E: Rabidly Attacking Personal Ease


I was recently approached again by a group of young girls to have an interactive session with them. As a mother and a woman, any opportunity to share and talk to the younger generation is obliged.  

This is my writeup I shared with them after which questions and answers were discussed. Kindly share and comment on what you think or can add to this... Enjoy


Hello Everyone! I hope you all are good? 
 Today, I want to discuss a societal issue that is not essentially seen as a ravaging problem- Rabidly Attacking Personal Ease  ( RAPE). An acronym that explains the feeling and experience we go through when sexually pressured, molested, or violated at any stage of our lives. This acronym represents an action that is an attack on our physical, social, emotional, mental, and total well-being and security.  I mean RAP.E. 
           
Rape is not a new topic or issue for us. It's been around for ages. However, it has been chosen as a central and contemporary discussion because its prevalence has assumed a muster epidemic.

Rape has never been taken seriously as it has predominantly been viewed as a problem between the involved parties. It's never been looked at as a societal crime, rather it is seen as a source of shame and ridicule, in which the victim often bears more blame than the assailant. This should not be so, as it is indeed, an unpleasant social malice that needs to be addressed and given more awareness. We need to begin re-educating and conditioning ourselves to reject the distorted ideas and reasons surrounding rape. The most common one being that people get raped because of their physical appearance, behaviors, or attitudes. And we must also cancel out the stigma surrounding rape and its victims. Here are some things we need to understand...

It's NEVER the victim's fault! NEVER EVER! Casting blames and judgment on the person shouldn't be done because not only are you aggravating their trauma, but you’re also saying something they did gave the assailant the incentive to forcefully have their way sexually without her/his consent. It's wrong! Totally and absolutely wrong!!

Having said this, we need to foster neutral and safe spaces, where women and girls (the most vulnerable) feel safe to express themselves on sexual issues. Most societies do not support such things. If a person or child is going through a form of abuse in his/ her home they have no safe place to go. There are multiple active platforms, helplines, and organizations noted at the end of this write-up, that handle these matters.

Regardless of the organizations out in place to help these victims, remember "charity begins at home". Parents, educate your children from an early age on the topics and issues surrounding sex. There’s nothing to shy away from or be embarrassed about. Your children are never too young to learn about being safe and protecting themselves. Make sure they know you’re approachable and always ready to listen. You should always be there for them.

Don’t educate just your girls. Yes, females are the most victimized, but we should not ignore that any sex could be a potential victim. Educate your sons too. If you teach the boys how to fight, teach the girls too! Don’t let any Sex feel more entitled than the other, in regards to how they present themselves and interact with people. When you tell the girls about sexual predators, tell the boys as well. Simply because any person (boy or girl) can be sexually harassed or assaulted by any of the other sexes. 

More importantly, you and your kids should learn the basics of self-defense ( karate and taekwondo), and have defense tools, such as a pocket knife, tasers or, pepper spray when out. 

The reason a lot of rape victims suffer in silence is because of society. A lot of  stigma surrounds the topic and so they suffer in silence due to the assumptions that :
1. They shouldn't be having sex (unmarried ones).
2. They can't deny sex to their spouses because their body belongs to the other (married ones). 
They remain silent because they already feel condemned and guilty. 

Sex has always been a controversial topic, especially in African countries. However, remember that only you are entitled to your body. You do not owe sex to anyone and no one has the power to claim your body. Regardless of whether you’re married or not, consent is paramount.

Whenever you have a social gathering, do not attend alone! Go in groups and watch out for each other. Don't leave your drinks unattended as that’s how you could get poisoned or drugged. It’s unfortunate that we have to bear all these precautions and rules to protect ourselves, but this is the world we live in. 

Note that if you were/ are a victim and don’t carry out any of these preventive actions that you are still not to blame. Victims are not raped and should not be blamed for feeling safe in their environments or thinking that society is safe and conducive. No one has foresight for such circumstances. People are raped because there are evil people out there.

Another key point is knowing your location and address. Be financially secured in case you need to leave by yourself. You can do this by saving a percent of your earnings. This is not only good for situations in which you need to escape from immediately, but also a good life habit.

You're spiritual? Be prayerful and God will direct your steps. Listen to your guts! It never fails!


 VICTIM
Rape can trigger and have many mental effects like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). A common side effect of high-stress occurrences like rape. Prioritizing one’s mental health is very important. If you know a victim offer as much support as needed; this could go a long way in aiding the recovery process. 

Know it was never your fault.

Don't be pressured to talk about it until you are ready and comfortable.

Don't be or feel guilty.

 RAPIST
The person should be seen and treated the same way other criminals are handled. 

There's no excuse whatsoever to carry out such a dirty act.

Please let’s educate and raise awareness about this heinous act, as this is one of the few ways we can protect ourselves and also normalize this matter and its victims so that they are able to come forward to a non- prejudiced society, tell their stories, and heal. Nobody deserves to be raped or carry the burdens of it.

Rabidly Attacking Personal Ease shouldn't be tolerated or encouraged. Rather, Resist Any Pressure Essentially should be uppermost in our minds and day to day living.

Thank you and God bless!

Sexual assault foundation in Nigeria: 
THE MIRABEL CENTRE
Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH), Ikeja, Lagos
08155770000
07013491769
08187243468

Thursday, 18 June 2020

Natural Hair Wash Day


Hello, everyone

You have probably heard my mum mention me in her previous post and for good reason. I have been natural for about two years now, haven transitioned mid-2018. What can I say, it has been a whirlwind of emotion. Tears, joy, anger, impatience, and more have highlighted my journey. It is safe to say I have finally reached a point of smooth- sailing with my hair.

My main focus is now growing and maintaining it, rather than transitioning. As for me, the beginning of my hair’s health begins with my wash days. 

And so, in today’s post, I will be sharing with you all the details of what a typical wash day looks like for me. I will be recommending alternative products and tips and tricks for all levels of natural hair, do not shy away from this post if your hair is not as full or long as mine.

This is what my hair looks like before I start my wash day:

                
     
       


 Firstly, I start off by splitting my hair into about four sections- you can do more or less depending on the volume and length of your hair. You do not have to do this if your hair is shorter and not as easily sectioned. Personally, I find that this makes the whole process easier and more manageable.

                                                   


Next, I like to finger detangle my hair before using any tools. Make sure your hair is almost drenched before you detangle. NEVER detangle dry hair. That would only inflict pain and damage to your hair.  Just gently run your fingers through your hair, patiently separating any knots and kinks.  I find that this helps reduce shedding for when you actually comb/ brush through it. 
The aim of wash days is to achieve as little damage and breakage as possible, as this is one of the factors that ensure the health of your hair.

                 

 
  
    When I finish detangling a whole section, I twist it into a few pieces just for convenience's sake. You do not necessarily have to do this, it just helps with organization and makes sure you don't detangle each piece more than once.  To hold shorter hair, I recommend using duck clips or mini hair bands as they provide a lot of grip, which is needed to hold shorter hair.
Gray Small 2mm Mini Hair Ties at Cyndibands.com

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I basically repeat this process until I'm done with all the sections. Notice how I use the infamous flexible detangling brush. When I combed from the tips of my hair to the shafts- as you should- it was a very stress-free process with little to no resistance. I 100% recommend it. However, if you don't have or can't get this brush, I also recommend the staple wide tooth combs. 
   Amazon.com : Large Tooth Detangle Comb Shampoo Wide Teeth Comb ...


Normally, I wash my hair in these twists. I find it is easier this way and I noticed it reduced the number of tangles I had. For shampoos and conditioners, I recommend sulfate-free products with essential oils like argan oil, jojoba oil, coconut oil, black castor oil, etc. You want a shampoo that does not strip your hair of its moisture, but rather moisturizes while also getting your scalp clean. You should shampoo your hair once or twice depending on how dirty it is. As for conditioners, you want a product that provides you with a lot of slip- a lot of lubrication- as this helps to detangle easier.  Some brands that sell sulfate-free products are:

  • Cantu
  • Creme of Nature
  •  Sheamoisture 
  • OGX products
  • Mielle


After shampooing and conditioning, it's time to deep condition. Not to worry, if you do not have a deep conditioner, a good hack is to just use your normal conditioner.  The brands mentioned beforehand also sell good deep conditioners. This would require you to not rinse it out of your hair after shampooing, and follow through with the following steps. After applying your choice of conditioner/ deep conditioner, throw on a plastic cap. Heat is essential for deep conditioning as it opens your follicles and ensures maximum absorption, which is key. Personally, I use a heating cap to provide heat and wear mine for an hour or more, sometimes even sleeping with it. If you do not have or can not access a heating cap, you could simply tightly wrap another layer around your plastic cap, like maybe a bonnet and/ or scarf. You could also wet a medium-sized towel and microwave it for about a minute, then wrap it around your plastic cap.

                                                      click me to purchase this steam cap.

When you are done deep conditioning, thoroughly rinse the product out of your hair, shake or pat your hair dry, then moisturize. If you would like to know what I do to keep my hair soft and maximally moisturized after my hair day, make sure you voice your thoughts in the comment section. 

Also, drop any questions or topics that you would like to see on this blog. If you made it all the way to the end, thank you for reading this far!

~ Ama-rachi





Saturday, 6 June 2020

Natural Hair: Our Journey

Welcome back to my blog!

I hope you are all keeping safe? It's been a long and tiring period for everyone, but know it will all soon pass. Keep hanging in there! In the meantime, I am going to be giving you all an insight into my natural hair journey. So, sit back, grab a mug of tea, a cup of water, or maybe even a glass of wine, and enjoy this segment. 


I never in my life imagined I would be writing about, talk less of, having natural hair! It never crossed my mind once. If I am being totally honest,  my natural hair journey began by accident. Yes… by accident.


It all started when my eldest daughter kicked off her journey sometime in 2015. Without giving anyone any sort of notice, she chopped off her long, thick, and luscious relaxed hair. To say I was shocked is an understatement because I was mortified. I could not wrap my head around any explanation or words of reason she gave to justify her big chop. This was my first encounter with this aspect of hair care.


2016 rolled by and I began having issues with my relaxed hair. It was constantly breaking, I was suffering from hair loss, and no treatment seemed to revive it. It was a really tough year for me, considering I had very long beautiful hair- If I do say so myself. I saw my hair lose all its luster and strength. I went to my hairstylist and he suggested a cut so that new growth would help revive it. And with that, I saw myself begin on the path of natural hair.


As the youth would say: “I did not know ‘jack’ about it”, and so, I had to reach out to my daughter for help. I saw she was very happy and confident rocking her natural hair and this motivated me. And of course, the compliments she received acted as a great morale booster as well! Taking on this journey made me think a lot about one of the principles I instilled in my children, while they were growing up; Be comfortable in your being regardless of what other people think. At that moment,  I felt proud to have a daughter who felt no shame nor needed validation about her God-given virgin hair. Believe it or not, there are a lot of people who struggle with accepting the coiliness, kinkiness, and coarseness that is black hair. So that warmed my heart and made me embrace it!


When my second daughter saw how I and her elder sister were enjoying and flaunting our journeys, she was equally entranced, and soon joined us. She too is currently enjoying the experience and has even surpassed us in length and volume- the girl’s hair is something else!


This journey has taught me a lot of things and grounded me in some virtues- patience especially. Do not forget that like some of you, I am still learning and still have questions. But, not to worry all my naturals or naturals- to- be, as long as you stay tuned and updated, you will always have tips and resources on how to keep your crowns healthy and gorgeous. I am ready to answer all and any of your questions concerning hair. This is one of the reasons my girls and I will be sharing our hair journies with you. Even my baby girl too who is currently transitioning.


Please let me know what specifics or topics you would like us to share and talk about. Feel free to input your questions below. We will work it out together. Cheers to this journey and experience!







Your Hair is Your Crown

Hello, Lovelies      How are you doing?      Today, I  will be talking about our crowns. Yes, our crowns. As naturalistas, it's kind of ...