Wednesday, 5 August 2020
Friday, 24 July 2020
Saturday, 11 July 2020
I hope you all are doing great and well?
We are back again with another natural hair post! This topic has been long promised and today we will be informing all our natural hair beginners and naturals- to- be about all you need to embark on this journey. You all must be expecting me to just jump straight into the tools that you will need. However, there is something more important that should be acknowledged first: your mentality.
Going natural is no simple task. I am not saying this to scare you but you must be aware that by embarking on this journey, you are going to be handling more sensitive, coarser, and textured hair. This is very far from the relaxed/ permed hair, I assume some of you are coming from. Beginners must be ready to go natural and understand it is care, attention, and consistency that facilitates progress. This is not a phase, but a lifestyle. Now that the importance of mental preparation has been established, we can now move on to the basic accessories every beginner should have in their collection:
1. The wide-tooth comb: This is the main detangling tool you should be using after your hands. The large gaps between the bristles aid the detangling process and are less damaging than closed- bristled combs.
That brings today's post to an end. I hope you all enjoyed this and found it super helpful. If you have any other questions or you would like to see more posts on a specific topic, please comment your thoughts below. Hope you all have a wonderful day.
Thursday, 25 June 2020
Thursday, 18 June 2020
You have probably heard my mum mention me in her previous post and for good reason. I have been natural for about two years now, haven transitioned mid-2018. What can I say, it has been a whirlwind of emotion. Tears, joy, anger, impatience, and more have highlighted my journey. It is safe to say I have finally reached a point of smooth- sailing with my hair.
This is what my hair looks like before I start my wash day:
Firstly, I start off by splitting my hair into about four sections- you can do more or less depending on the volume and length of your hair. You do not have to do this if your hair is shorter and not as easily sectioned. Personally, I find that this makes the whole process easier and more manageable.
Next, I like to finger detangle my hair before using any tools. Make sure your hair is almost drenched before you detangle. NEVER detangle dry hair. That would only inflict pain and damage to your hair. Just gently run your fingers through your hair, patiently separating any knots and kinks. I find that this helps reduce shedding for when you actually comb/ brush through it.
- Creme of Nature
- OGX products
After shampooing and conditioning, it's time to deep condition. Not to worry, if you do not have a deep conditioner, a good hack is to just use your normal conditioner. The brands mentioned beforehand also sell good deep conditioners. This would require you to not rinse it out of your hair after shampooing, and follow through with the following steps. After applying your choice of conditioner/ deep conditioner, throw on a plastic cap. Heat is essential for deep conditioning as it opens your follicles and ensures maximum absorption, which is key. Personally, I use a heating cap to provide heat and wear mine for an hour or more, sometimes even sleeping with it. If you do not have or can not access a heating cap, you could simply tightly wrap another layer around your plastic cap, like maybe a bonnet and/ or scarf. You could also wet a medium-sized towel and microwave it for about a minute, then wrap it around your plastic cap.
When you are done deep conditioning, thoroughly rinse the product out of your hair, shake or pat your hair dry, then moisturize. If you would like to know what I do to keep my hair soft and maximally moisturized after my hair day, make sure you voice your thoughts in the comment section.
Saturday, 6 June 2020
I hope you are all keeping safe? It's been a long and tiring period for everyone, but know it will all soon pass. Keep hanging in there! In the meantime, I am going to be giving you all an insight into my natural hair journey. So, sit back, grab a mug of tea, a cup of water, or maybe even a glass of wine, and enjoy this segment.
I never in my life imagined I would be writing about, talk less of, having natural hair! It never crossed my mind once. If I am being totally honest, my natural hair journey began by accident. Yes… by accident.
It all started when my eldest daughter kicked off her journey sometime in 2015. Without giving anyone any sort of notice, she chopped off her long, thick, and luscious relaxed hair. To say I was shocked is an understatement because I was mortified. I could not wrap my head around any explanation or words of reason she gave to justify her big chop. This was my first encounter with this aspect of hair care.
2016 rolled by and I began having issues with my relaxed hair. It was constantly breaking, I was suffering from hair loss, and no treatment seemed to revive it. It was a really tough year for me, considering I had very long beautiful hair- If I do say so myself. I saw my hair lose all its luster and strength. I went to my hairstylist and he suggested a cut so that new growth would help revive it. And with that, I saw myself begin on the path of natural hair.
As the youth would say: “I did not know ‘jack’ about it”, and so, I had to reach out to my daughter for help. I saw she was very happy and confident rocking her natural hair and this motivated me. And of course, the compliments she received acted as a great morale booster as well! Taking on this journey made me think a lot about one of the principles I instilled in my children, while they were growing up; Be comfortable in your being regardless of what other people think. At that moment, I felt proud to have a daughter who felt no shame nor needed validation about her God-given virgin hair. Believe it or not, there are a lot of people who struggle with accepting the coiliness, kinkiness, and coarseness that is black hair. So that warmed my heart and made me embrace it!
When my second daughter saw how I and her elder sister were enjoying and flaunting our journeys, she was equally entranced, and soon joined us. She too is currently enjoying the experience and has even surpassed us in length and volume- the girl’s hair is something else!
This journey has taught me a lot of things and grounded me in some virtues- patience especially. Do not forget that like some of you, I am still learning and still have questions. But, not to worry all my naturals or naturals- to- be, as long as you stay tuned and updated, you will always have tips and resources on how to keep your crowns healthy and gorgeous. I am ready to answer all and any of your questions concerning hair. This is one of the reasons my girls and I will be sharing our hair journies with you. Even my baby girl too who is currently transitioning.
Please let me know what specifics or topics you would like us to share and talk about. Feel free to input your questions below. We will work it out together. Cheers to this journey and experience!
Monday, 25 May 2020
I remember having a conversation with one of my sons on COVID-19 when it initially started and wasn’t a pandemic yet. He was shocked that a flu-like disease could cause such a humongous change in the world. In his words: " I've never experienced such a thing in my entire life!", and we laughed about it.
As we know now, it's no longer a laughing matter as thousands of lives have been lost globally.
For us Nigerians, we have been fortunate enough to not have as high spikes as other countries like the U.S.A, Italy, Spain,and Germany.
So, what are you doing with your time?
The first 3 days may have been fun; resting, sleeping, relaxing and not having a routine. After that, what? How are you engaging yourself and household?
Here are some tips (tips for what) which you can customize to your needs:
1. PLAN: Since you're at home, you can still have plans in your activities at home. Set out what you want to achieve/ do that day. It’ll give structure to your day and help you to not be idle.
2. HOBBIES: Start a hobby or if you already have one, this is the time to embark on it. Read that book you've been putting away, paint, write, dance...etc. Just explore some activites you have been hoping to do but never got around to doing. You have the time now so just do it!
3. EXERCISE: Start easy if you've never done exercise. Try walking. You can do that on your streets to keep fit. If you've been active try to maintain the habit and do more if you can.
4. FOOD: Be kind to yourself but don't over do it! Watch how much you eat, drink (and even sleep) so you don't gain weight or build up expenses. You could also try out new cuisines or even learn how to cook if you don't know. You may say, "how do I get the ingredients?" There are designated places and days you can go to the market to buy groceries. Grab this opportunity and improve your culinary skills.
5. BONDING: Spend quality time talking and listening to the children. It may not be easy but this is the time to share, care, and love yourselves! Examine their bodies and talk about sex and their safety... yes, discuss it if they’re of age to comprehend. Make sure they know you’re there for them.
6. RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD: (if you’re religious): If you don't know it's by HIS Grace you're still here, then you have to guage your connection with God. Bible study, gospel songs, Christian movies, prayers.... A lot of these resources can be found online so there’s no reason for you to not step up your game.
7. SPOUSE: Bond with your spouse. Not just sex is important! Really talk. Discuss things you never had time to do. This is the time to correct or request for any positive changes in your relationship. Reduce your phone use and enjoy each other's company. Also, give space when necessary ( social distancing...lol). It's not easy being in the house 24/7 for weeks on end. Give each other some personal space when needed.
8. RECONNECT: Place calls to old friends and family members you've not seen or heard from in a long time. Know how they are doing. Just check on people.
9. CHARITY: You're blessed to be alive and healthy. Give whatever you can to someone in your neighborhood who is in need. Nothing is too small.
10. CREATIVITY: Work on yourself and business and see how you can improve and get better! Think. Explore. Grow.
The lockdown is not funny but never see challenges only as problems or punishment. Rather view it as an opportunity to evaluate, reconnect and improve ourselves.
Add to this and let’s help each other here.
BE SAFE!! BE STRONG! IT WILL SOON PASS AWAY!
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